Despite of the being a complete act made by the parliament to facilitate adoption, it has not been appreciated by many families, including mine! My very liberal mother , who once told me she would be okay even if I had a different sexual orientation ( which of course I don't have), expressed her strong reservation against adoption!
Today, I raise this issue and wish to discuss it freely, with my people and all those people who have their reservations against it!
In a country where lakhs of children are abandoned, who are homeless and need parenting, why is society and family so against it? Why is it fine if others adopt but a fuming issue if some one in the family does? Why do we need to have some one of own blood? If we believe in humanism, we all are some how and some where related!
We Indians are very good at talking the talk but seldom do we walk the talk! Men are ready to divorce their wives who can't bear them a child, or they enter into bigamous relation,but they are not ready to give home and father an orphan and take him as their own! Women, who are ready to express their motherly emotion at that small child begging on the road, suddenly expresses deep resent if asked to take him home and bring him as their own! Why is this feeling of "own" and "others" so strong in our society?
This concept of ownership developed with concept of property. We see our children too, as our property! When they are young, we tend to force them with our views and when they are old, we tend to fleece them with our emotions!
Adoption should not be the last resort, but it can the first choice of a couple! It should not be seen as a stigma, rather a matter of pride and joy! Joy is always in giving and when we give our heart and soul to a person who is otherwise not related to us through blood, but only through emotion, the joy is greatest. Same way when we find some one who is not our own blood, and when we get attracted, and become closer than our own blood, get married and decide to spend life. Likewise, it is not the 'blood' that bleeds, for some one who is humane and motherly/ fatherly, their heart bleeds for even those who are not their own born!
Let us welcome this adoption and adapt to this adoption !
Today, I raise this issue and wish to discuss it freely, with my people and all those people who have their reservations against it!
In a country where lakhs of children are abandoned, who are homeless and need parenting, why is society and family so against it? Why is it fine if others adopt but a fuming issue if some one in the family does? Why do we need to have some one of own blood? If we believe in humanism, we all are some how and some where related!
We Indians are very good at talking the talk but seldom do we walk the talk! Men are ready to divorce their wives who can't bear them a child, or they enter into bigamous relation,but they are not ready to give home and father an orphan and take him as their own! Women, who are ready to express their motherly emotion at that small child begging on the road, suddenly expresses deep resent if asked to take him home and bring him as their own! Why is this feeling of "own" and "others" so strong in our society?
This concept of ownership developed with concept of property. We see our children too, as our property! When they are young, we tend to force them with our views and when they are old, we tend to fleece them with our emotions!
Adoption should not be the last resort, but it can the first choice of a couple! It should not be seen as a stigma, rather a matter of pride and joy! Joy is always in giving and when we give our heart and soul to a person who is otherwise not related to us through blood, but only through emotion, the joy is greatest. Same way when we find some one who is not our own blood, and when we get attracted, and become closer than our own blood, get married and decide to spend life. Likewise, it is not the 'blood' that bleeds, for some one who is humane and motherly/ fatherly, their heart bleeds for even those who are not their own born!
Let us welcome this adoption and adapt to this adoption !
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